Things No One Tells You When a Loved One Dies
Death comes to us all eventually, but few of us are ever prepared for the death of a loved one and this is partly because so few of us talk about death and it’s aftermath candidly.
So, although you can never be fully prepared, by talking about death, we can all help each other to handle it a bit better.
With that in mind, here are a few things that no one ever seems to tell you after the death of a loved one:
Things Get Quiet
Immediately after a death, you will have friends, family members, and colleagues rushing to offer you their condolences and see if you need anything, but this doesn’t last.
There comes a point when everyone else has to get back to normal and it will get pretty quiet.
Sure, people will still be at the end of the phone if you need them, but there will be more quiet moments when you’re left alone with your thoughts and these can be hard.
When these moments come along, you need to be unafraid of stating your needs and telling people you need help.
Finances Can Get Tight
Not only can the cost of a funeral get pretty expensive, but if you’ve lost a loved one whose finances are tied with your own, things can get pretty tough financially as you try to manage on just one salary.
That’s why everyone who has dependants be they children or a spouse, should have life insurance.
It’s also why you should familiarize yourself with legislation like The Revised Code of Washington and other areas that could help you out with money when things get tough after a death.
Oney is often the last thing on your mind, but knowing that it’s all sorted will mean that you have one less thing to worry about when you’re grieving.
There is Joy
When you’ve just lost a loved one, you feel like things will never be good again.
You fully expect to be miserable forevermore, but actually, even in the early days of grief, it is possible to experience joy.
You experience joy when you remember the good times you had together when your family crowd together to reminisce and offer support and when you realize just how precious life is.
Yes, it is hard to carry on, but it isn’t the unrelenting misery that you might expect and that is a good thing.
When a Loved One Dies: The Best Support isn’t Always the Most Expected
When someone dies, you really get to know who your friends are and often they aren’t the people you expected.
Often you’ll find that it isn’t your good friend who you love but the neighbor you’ve often found to be quite aloof to be the person who offers you the most support.
Death can bring people together and show you the true measure of people and it can be extremely eye-opening.
Losing a loved one hurts and will continue to hurt, but if you know what to expect, it can be a bit less difficult to bear.