How to Start a Family: A Single’s Guide to Relationships and Love
For some reason, the world always feels sorry and sad for singles, but honestly, I have no idea why! Not only does the reality of living life on your terms give you the much-needed space to reflect and grow, but it’s a ton of fun, let’s be honest.
Whether you’re planning to find the one at some point, or whether you’re committed to being single (excuse the pun), it’s likely you’ve painted the picture of how your ‘dream future’ will look like – and if you haven’t, this post is sure to help you on your journey.
Because let’s be real, it’s better to know what you want beforehand than finding out what you don’t want when you’re in the thick of it.
Love and Relationships for hopeful singles
Now to help you navigate your way, we’ve unpacked the whole love and relationship thing for the single who wishes to find love in due time. But for the die-hard single, who may not want the full package of love and the complexities of a relationship, but still wants a family of their own, we have covered some of the perfect solutions for you – because in this day and age, anything is possible, and your wants and desires are celebrated.
Tip #1: Figure out how you’d like to be treated
Love is complicated, and you know why? Because we never really know how we love, and how we want to be loved, and who we want to be loved by until we have found our person – and we think ‘ah!” this is it. For the singletons, it’s likely you have not yet felt the ‘ah hah!’ moment, because you wouldn’t be single today if you did.
But don’t worry about that, what I want to get at, is that you should stop trying to figure it all out. Stop wondering who you’re going to meet and when, and what they’ll look like and how they’ll dress. Focus firmly on how you would like to be treated, and what traits you would like your significant other to bring out in you.
Thinking about the other person is certainly going to limit you because the guy or girl you have described on paper is not the one you’re going to find – when it comes to love, coincidence is not on your side I’m afraid. So, go ahead, focus on you!
Tip #2: Work on yourself
Think about the person you’d like to meet. I’m sure you’d want them to have some interests, some hobbies – something to talk about. They need to be interesting on some level, right?
Now, your future person is thinking about the same thing. So, what do you do? Work on yourself – find hobbies and interests and seek to make your offering not only valuable but interesting too. Just as much as you want the other person to bring something to the table, so should you.
Tip #3: Figure out what you could have done better in previous relationships
If you have been in relationships that have not worked out, there is always a reason. We can’t say that we’re squeaky clean in the matter – we all have our faults and there are reasons why we couldn’t make something work.
So try to establish what your strengths and weaknesses are and try to figure out how you could have done things differently. Use this advice for self-growth, so that you don’t make the same mistakes in future relationships.
The future for die-hard singles
Tip #1: Figure out the pros and cons of being indefinitely single
No-one’s judging the die-hard single, but the die-hard single often wonders whether or not their choice will become a burden – and to put it bluntly; turn to loneliness (I know because I have die-hard singles around me who wonder the same).
The truth is, being single in this day and age just means you are not in a relationship and perhaps not looking for one – it does not mean you don’t want a family.
But even if you don’t want a family, you will make sure to have a solid group of friends. Otherwise, loneliness is a concern for sure. To find out what it is you want and whether the pros outweigh the cons – and whether there is possibly a solution to the disadvantages!
Tip#2: So you want to start a family?
Starting a family as a single person is possible. For women, sperm bank or adoption are great solutions, and for men, it’s possible to find a surrogate or adopt a child. What we’d suggest is you make informed decisions.
Visit your doctor and find out what options you have and how you can go about it because if there’s a will, there’s a way. Now you know how to start a family!