4 Kinds of Conversation Starters That Work Every Time
Starting up a conversation is something that’s supposed to be extremely easy, but it doesn’t always work out that way. Indeed, the act of actually speaking to someone requires very little physical effort, but the real mental challenge comes in the moments before the approach, the seconds before the first sounds come out of your mouth, and the anticipation and anxiety that comes with not knowing how the other person is going to respond. Okay, so it’s not that bad of an experience, and even if you get rejected or the person doesn’t want to talk to you, well at least you tried. Here are four ways you can maximize your chances of starting up a lengthy conversation with someone:
1. Tell A Few Jokes
There’s no need to take yourself so seriously when you’re really just trying to start a conversation. You’re not proposing, this isn’t a job interview, and chances are if you’re worried about starting a conversation with them, then you probably don’t know them well enough for them to have a considerable impact on your life if they were to decide to not be a part of it. So, take a risk and tell a few jokes, but make sure they’re clean jokes because you don’t know what kind of personality type you’re dealing with yet, and some folks take offense to dirtier jokes, especially when they’re delivered by strangers or someone they’ve never had a conversation with.
2. Give a Gift
Of course, you don’t want to just walk up to anybody and give them a gift, so it’s important to use this tip in the right context and give an appropriate gift that would be fun to talk about. When you hand someone a gift they usually don’t just say “thank you” and then put it in their pocket and move on. Typically, you’ll get thanks plus some sort of response, and from there you can continue the conversation naturally.
3. Ask a Few Questions
Questions are the key to getting to know someone and they serve the magical purpose of diverting the responsibility of leading the conversation to the other person. If you don’t like talking for long periods of time or are concerned that you might say the wrong thing, conversation-starting questions can be very useful tools to put the spotlight on the other person while also giving the impression that you’re attentive and considerate.
4. Mentioning Interests
Finally, everyone is interested in something and has favorite activities, so all you have to do is find one that you and the other person have in common. Start by mentioning the last fun thing you did, or something fun you’re about to do in the near future. This not only gives you an opportunity to see if the other person finds that interesting, but it’s also a chance to ask for a first date if they seem interested in something you have planned.
Use Discretion and Don’t Overdo it
All of the above can certainly work to get a vibe going, but it can also backfire if you’re doing too much of one thing or are coming off too unnatural, so still, try to go with the flow but don’t hesitate to incorporate a proven conversation starter as well if necessary.